The day of Farrah Fawcett’s funeral was really hard on Ryan O’Neal. He lost the “love of [his] life,” sure, but he also hit on his daughter by accident.

It isn’t clear if it was the “hitting on someone while at Farrah’s funeral” or the “daughter” part that was unintended… but Ryan told Vanity Fair about the incident:

“I had just put the casket in the hearse and I was watching it driv away when a beautiful blonde woman comes up and embraces me. I said to her, ‘You have a drink on you? You have a car?’ She said, ‘Daddy, it’s me — Tatum!’ I was just trying to be funny with a strange Swedish woman, and it’s my daughter. It’s so sick.”

So sick, in fact, that he decided to tell a magazine reporter about it. What new low will Ryan discover and blab about next?

So it’s true.

Farrah Fawcett left the bulk of her $6 million estate to her drug-addicted son, Redmond O’Neal. But she was smart and put it into a trust, so he couldn’t just raid it to fund his own destruction.

What seems more shocking — at least to some — is that Farrah’s long-time partner, Ryan O’Neal, didn’t get a penny. Supposedly the two planned to marry before her death, but weren’t able to because her health deteriorated too quickly.

Now I can’t help but wonder — did Ryan push tying the knot after so many years so he could access Farrah’s money?

Do you wonder how Ryan O’Neal is coping with the death of long-time partnr Farrah Fawcett?

He says he’s trying to find meaningful tasks to feel close to Farrah and to respond to the grief of others:

“[In her final moments], I said I’d see her soon, and I see her every day. I write to her in my journal. Redmond says it’s harder to grieve, but I told him to be patient. And when he got out, we’d grieve together.

I’m using what she taught me to survive, to go on. I have launched into this massive job of answering the mail that has come in for her over the last few weeks. Hundreds and hundreds of letters of pain and sorrow and hope. I’m answering every one of them. That’s my life now.” (via UsMagazine.com)

Beautiful way to celebrate a life even in grief. I think (and was reminded last night) how important it is to set aside time to process the pain associated with losing loved ones. Burying, ignoring, or minimizing it only allows the pain to warp and grow into something ugly and unhealthy.

Loved ones said goodbye to Farrah Fawcett yesterday at her funeral at the Cathedral of Our Lady of the Angels in Los Angeles. Farrah’s elderly father was seen being helped to and from the church, and the actress’ long-time partner Ryan O’Neal was seen wearing what appeared to be a wedding band on his left hand.

It’s devastating to say goodbye to someone you love so deeply, but the best thing we can do is find a way to celebrate the fact that life happened and to honor the memories with which we’re left. Please don’t forget to help me in my small effort to remember Farrah — help me decide where to donate my hair.

This afternoon will be Farrah Fawcett’s funeral. If you’re religious or spiritual, now would be a great time to keep her loved ones in your thoughts and prayers.

Speaking of Farrah, I’m still looking for input about the hair donation, guys. I’ve gotten some feedback, and a lot of you favor Locks of Love over Pantene Great Lengths.

But can you tell me why? And have any of you been recipients (or know recipients) of one of these wigs?

Those of you who have donated in the past might be able to relate to how I’m feeling right now. I know I want to donate, and I’m not wavering… but this hair’s been with me a long time. It’s what people notice about me, compliment me about, and envy me for (don’t underestimate the ego boost there!). So while I’m 100% committed to giving it away, I will miss it… and I want to make sure that I’m making the best choice about the organization.

So please let me know what you think and why. Leave a comment below, or send me a message on Twitter.

Also, thanks to Karen over at Makeup And Beauty Blog for mentioning this adventure/tribute/need for information.

Ryan O’Neal is trying to create some semblance of normalcy now that the love of his life is gone. He was spotted leaving the gym… which is a good place to go if you want to just work too hard to think.

Farrah Fawcett’s funeral is tomorrow. It’s going to be so hard on poor Ryan.

And please, don’t forget to help me figure out who I should donate my hair to in honor of Farrah.

Farrah may be gone, but her influence is not.

After playing an abused woman in TV movie The Burning Bed, Farrah became strongly committed to helping women who had suffered from domestic violence. So it’s not surprising to those who knew her that in her will, she left money for battered women’s shelters.

What a beautiful and big-hearted person.

It makes me feel like my hair donation is the tiniest drop in the bucket of suffering that exists… but I know it’s something (pssst: I still need your help determining which organization with which to work!).

Tell me in the comments, though — are there ways that you’re being inspired to help relieve suffering?

Family and friends will officially say goodbye to their beloved Farrah Fawcett this Tuesday afternoon, according to People.

The ceremony is private, and only those with invitations will be welcome (so no crashing it). Ryan O’Neal is handling the details of the event.

We may not be able to go the funeral to say goodbye, but we can still celebrate Farrah’s life by getting involved in the fight against cancer.

Kate Jackson:

I will miss Farrah every day. She was a selfless person who loved her family and friends with all her heart, and what a big heart it was. Farrah showed immense courage and grace throughout her illness and was an inspiration to those around her. When I think of Farrah, I will remember her kindness, her cutting, dry wit and, of course, her beautiful smile.”

Jaclyn Smith:

“Farrah had courage, she had strength, and she had faith. And now she has peace as she rests with the real angels.”

Don’t forget to remember Farrah through action.

Yesterday we lost two talented people. And while Michael Jackson’s death is shocking because of how sudden it was, Farrah Fawcett’s passing is no less tragic because it was slow.

I don’t know a single person who hasn’t been in some way touched by cancer — my own grandmother fought it off four times before it claimed her life on round five.

That’s why Christina Applegate — a cancer survivor herself — is urging people to take the occasion of Farrah’s untimely death to start fighting the disease that took her. Christina sent out a Twitter message to fans, telling them to get moving:

“Today please donate money to a great cancer organization for research. This d*mn disease has taken another. We must find a cure. Farrah RIP.”

Two great ones — if you’re interested in donating — are the Susan G. Komen Foundation as well as the Fred Hutchinson Cancer Research Center.

But there are other ways to get involved, too.

I literally have feet of extra hair. The picture below was taken two months ago, so it’s even a little bit longer now — and not an inch of it is colored. While donating my hair won’t help find a cure for cancer, it will hopefully provide a small amount of relief and comfort for someone already battling it.

Plus, I think donating my hair would be a fitting thing to do now in light of Farrah, who had such iconic hair herself.

So here’s where you come in. Find Dishiness on Twitter, and message me with which organization with which you think I should donate my hair. I haven’t done the research yet, but it seems like a good time to find out. When my decision is made, I’ll let all of you know — and you’ll get to see the actual donation, too.

Thank you, Christina Applegate, for reminding us to get involved.